one of my biggest fucking pet peeves is when stupid ugly little boys (all of them) compare girls to each other. And I’m supposed to feel flattered because you put down another beautiful girl to compliment me? Or I’m supposed to feel shit because you find another girl more attractive than me?
Please pick up a fucking mirror you little worm, we wouldn’t even look at you.
Don’t fucking call me your “favorite Asian”. I am not your “Asian friend”. “Asian” isn’t a variety of handbag. It isn’t a color to dye your hair. “Asian” isn’t a pair of shoes that might look good with your Good White Person Who Has Colored Friends™ certificate.
Asian isn’t all bubble tea and K-Pop or geishas and butterflies. Asian isn’t all double eyelids and aegyo-sal or Harajuku and Seoul. Asian isn’t all ulzzang and gyaru or bleached hair and circle lenses. Asian isn’t all seductive women and androgynous men or that buddha keychain you bought in Chinatown.
Asian is 49 countries, 2197 languages, 4.299 billion people. Asian is a trillion silent wars for justice, a billion open battles for equality. Asian is yellow, brown, and white collided. Asian is 5,000 years of recorded history. Asian is a millennia of struggle. Asian is innovation and identity stolen and sold by western imperialists. Asian is history and heritage that we won’t let you characterize and commodify.
How dare you say who is or isn’t really Asian? How dare you pick favorites? How dare you?
We are not yours. I am not yours.
I am not your anything. We are not your anything.
Don’t fucking call me your “favorite Asian”. We are not accessories.
Please don’t be angry with people for not understanding something. Explain to them. Educate them. Inform them. Do not yell and call them names. Because they will still not comprehend. Except now, they are hurt. And you are the asshole.
Reminder that while the concept of virginity is technically a social construct, your sexual debut is still allowed to be special to you, and you are still allowed to wait and want to make it meaningful, and your self-perception is still allowed to change after you have sex. Just as long as you’re doing these things for yourself, and not because someone told you that you should.